I just finished reading spunkyhomeschool's repost on outsourcing parenting. I am right there with her. Over the past decades parents have taken less and less responsibility for parenting their children. Thank you Dr. Spock. Yes, I've heard Dr. Spock changed his mind, but imo, it's a little bit of change alot too late.
On to the real reason Spunky spurred me to write. It's not just to government schools that we parents have outsourced. Okay… here's the dare I say it part
….What about Sunday school?
Our modern day Sunday School is based totally on to government school model. Segregated by age, away from parents, opportunities for being bullied or made fun because a child actually thinks Bible class is for learning the Bible. (Our daughter was made fun of because she wears dresses all the time). Rarely do the parent know what is being taught, or who their child's classmates are, and the character of some of the people that volunteer to teach quite honestly is not who I want my children learning from. Does any of this sound familiar?
About 3 years ago, the family, age-integrated church we had attended for several years decided to disband. Believe me it's a looooooooooooong story. Dh and I were beat down… he had stepped in as preacher after a bad situation and we had tried to revive the church for several years. In our sorrow, and with our guard down, we allowed the children to go to Sunday School classes while looking for a new church home.
Recently God has been convicting us that it was a bad decision and we are working our way out of them. Most people do not understand. We've gotten the same response from our church family as we've gotten because our children don't go to public school. “what about the influence your children can have on the other children in the class?” I actually had to get pretty firm when I told a group of ladies in a small Bible study.
It is not my child's responsibility to teach, encourage, etc. your child! It is your responsibility!
Why don't they get it? Honestly, I don't think they've thought about it. For decades parental responsibility has erroded … these parents have been brainwashed into believing that the government will take care of all of their parental responsibilities, so they can continue to have a “life” Yes, all but one of these ladies in my study work outside the home. (Most of them substitute-teach in the the government school) In fact, most of the mothers in our church work outside the home. (Yes, many at the gov't school).
What do we do about it? I guess we trudge forward and take the lead from our homeschooling pioneers. Don't let it get under our skin because we are doing what God has called us to do. Easier said than done sometimes. But trudge we must….