I was just getting on a soapbox over at Kris's blog. http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/ClassicalEducation4Me/96749/
So I thought I'd come home and write about it.
***First, let me warn you– I may step on toes. I know co-ops are the new thing to do and many people think they are wonderful. Kris was talking about how the children in her class at the co-op are rude, disrespectful and out of her control. Here was my comment:
First of all, don't believe that children are quiet in government school–ask any gov't school teacher and the'll tell you (and if they are quiet, it's because all the boys are on Ritalin). Secondly, think about the fit a sub teacher gets– at the co-op, you are the substitute. Thirdly, IMO, too many hs families try to “do” gov't school at home — meaning the children are getting taught academics, but they still think socialization is getting 3rd graders with 3rd graders instead of with older children and adults. I think I feel a blog entry coming on 🙂 I'll get off my soapbox here and go write on mine.
I want to expound on it here. When homeschooling first began, people were doing it because they were convicted. Not because it was the fad of the day.
Who would arbitrarily pull their child out of school and risk having them taken away by the state and being charged with neglect if it wasn't for conviction?
People like my m-i-l worked in every state in the country to make it legal for parents to home educate their children. When hubby graduated hs, I think there were 6 graduates. He had no co-op, no sports, no you fill in the blank. He learned how to play the accordian because that's the instrument his Mom knew how to play. (He may hate me for telling you but I think it maks an excellent illustration for my point) He had his Dad, Mom and debate. Oh, maybe a friend of the family would help him understand a concept if he couldn't quite grasp it and Mom and Dad couldn't get through. He scored 31 on his ACT and got a full tuition scholarship to the college we attended. He'll hate me for telling you that too, as he is a humble man– but I'm proud of him and I'll brag a little .
And most importantly — he is a man of manners, character, and integrity. One of his best friends was a 70 something year old man. Most of his friends were older, because all the others were in gov't school.
Fast forward to today…. Mothers are running their children to co-op, dance class, music lessons, homeschool sports, a playdate, this event, and that event. They are not educating out of conviction, they are educating because it's the latest fad, they don't like the teacher this year, or their child is behind so they'll homeschool and put child back in gov't school next year. Something happened at the school so they react and pull child out. They are in it for the academics so on and so forth. The children must have socialization so parents set up multiple play dates with same age peers, join the co-op, put the child in Sunday school, etc. (using the same plan as atheists used to develop the current gov't school situation) run them from this event to that event. Eat meals on the run. And generally follow the pattern of the government school system.
This is a different mindset than the homeschoolers of 20+ years ago. Children don't need co-op, they don't need socialization with peers of the same age,
they need their parents to home educate them at home! They need to learn how to get along with their siblings, they need the older to teach the younger.
Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child– why in the world would I want my child socialized with other foolish beings?
Our children take ballet and CYT classes once a week. They do play with other children their age. We go on field trips with the local group. But this is a rarity– a treat for them.
Gena (TOSPUBLISHER) says “bring them home” I say that too, however, don't do it if you're not convicted. Do it because you want to give your child more than the gov't school can. Do it because you want to teach them the ways of the Lord. Do it because of conviction!
I've said it before and I'll say it again. If home education continues down this path, my children or grandchildren will be fighting the same battle that my in-laws fought. Only then it will be harder. It will be like trying to reverse Roe V Wade. They will have a much bigger, stronger fight on their hands. One I do not relish my children fighting. But, if they do– they won't be alone, they'll have a legacy in my husband's parents.