Called to Adopt Part III

I’ve been talking about adoption.  We have just started looking at James 1:27.  Now we’re going to take a look at some statistics.  Be prepared, these statistics are astonishing.

In my state alone, there were well over 10,000, yes TEN THOUSAND children in foster care  in 2006.  California had nearly 30,000!  Florida and Texas almost tied with 30,000!  To get the numbers for your state click here.

According to this document there are were over 400,000 children in state custody on September 30, 2011!  With only half of them having the goal of returning to their family!  Let’s do some simple math here.  400,000 divided by 50 is an AVERAGE of 8000 children in each STATE!  Only 4000 of those children will be reunited with their family of origin.  According to this article only 51,000 of these children will be adopted!  In addition, only 127,000 of those 400,000 are available for adoption!

Yep we’re taking care of those orphans!  NOT!

What happens to the rest of those children?  They get bounced from foster home to foster home, or group home, or institutional setting for the rest of their childhood,

I don’t know about you, but those numbers are astonishing!

So let’s continue looking at James 1:27

Religion that is pure and undefiled before God, the Father, is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world.

Now, here’s the clincher.  Are these children orphans?

according to dictionary.com this is the definition of an orphan:

a child who has lost both parents through death, or, less commonly, one parent.
another definition used the word abandoned.
Now, one might argue that a child in foster care IS an orphan; BUT, has that child really been abandoned?  Are the parents dead?
No, the fact is that these children have parents.   Parents that have not learned to be parents (see last week’s post) but parents nonetheless.
The Liberals are quick to point out that a family can be about any arrangement, including those that are single parents, those that shack up, or those that are homosexual.  Let me be point out that a 2 person heterosexual married couple family is quite the anomaly in this society.
I submit to you that THIS is the biggest part of the problem!  Children NEED 2 parents, a Mom AND a Dad!  I know this is unpopular in this day and age where we think we’ve come so far.  I challenge you to look around.  There is NO moral compass in this society.  For heaven’s sake,  Child pedophilia is being considered as a NORM
in addition, I question whether most children in the system are true orphans.  I’d like to put before you that almost every child in the system has been taken out of the only home it has ever known,  most often put in a home with complete strangers that they are to start calling “mom” and “dad.”  And expected to continue this farce until the state decides that it is “safe” for the child to go home or that child needs to be moved to another foster home (they could determine this from a multitude of reasons) where another family is now “mom and “dad” until such time that they are adopted.  These children leave behind most everything from their previous life, clothes, toys, stuffed animals.  EVERYTHING.  Sometimes, they might get a few of these items at a later date, but in foster care, everything is up for grabs and many of these personal items are lost in the shuffle.
Back to the statistics.  We know from some of the data presented above that just a little over 50% of these children are actually reunited with their parents.  From the statistics, we can also determine that only a relatively small amount of these children will actually be adopted.
Which means that MOST of these children will bounce from foster home to foster home, or group home, or institution until they age out and enter the world unprepared to face their life journey because they’ve been so beaten and battered by a system that was SUPPOSED to protect them.  We know many of them don’t cope well.  In fact, many in state custody end up being abused WORSE by their foster families than they did in their family of origin.
Bouncing from home to home to home, from “Mom” to “Mom” to “Mom” does nothing to foster attachment in these children, in fact, quite the opposite…
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